Need help deciding on a vasectomy? Don’t ask a man

Hammer and eggs There’s a scene in the movie “Jaws” where the Mayor of Amity Island explains how yelling the word “BARRACUDA” won’t get much reaction on a crowded beach. “But if you yell ‘SHARK’ you’ll have a panic on your hands…”

Keeping that in mind, you’ll have some idea of the reaction you get from most men if you change “shark” to “vasectomy.” This was the first word out of my radio this morning. And yes, it caught my attention. Apparently, March is the busiest month for vasectomies — and tomorrow is the busiest day of the year for this procedure.

Maybe it’s a result of March Madness compromises reached between husbands and wives, or a subconscious tribute to the start of baseball season. Whatever the reason, when I had mine 10 years ago, it was also in March. The decision had nothing to do with basketball or baseball, and everything to do with weeks of campaigning from my ex-wife.

Because she had a degree in social work, my ex-wife was trained on how to approach sensitive subject matter. That’s why I was allowed to discover, with no pressure from her whatsoever, that my new place mat at the dinner table was actually a medical brochure titled:

So, You Want To Have a Vasectomy?

True, we had talked about this subject before.

Twice, actually; during the birth of each of our two children. I don’t remember the exact conversations. But, on both occasions, I do recall the doctor informing her that, as far as he was concerned, the umbilical cord was the only thing we’d be snipping that day. The topic also came up when we had our dog neutered. Again, because of my my ex-wife’s education and training, she avoided pressuring me and took a more subtle approach by calling our dog “Ned” for a week.

After breakfast one morning, during which I watched her repeatedly crack two eggs together and then scrambled them — one pair at a time — in a flaming skillet, it became clear that the subject of a vasectomy needed to be addressed. So, after breakfast, we sat down together and discussed the issue like adults.

We went over the information carefully.

We educated ourselves on the mechanics of the procedure.

We weighed the pros and cons.

Then, together, we joined hands and pried my knees apart so I could drive to work.

To help ease my fears, she suggested I talk to other men who have had the procedure done.

This makes perfect sense if you’re a woman.

That’s because women are educated about their bodies while men, according to a recent study conducted by the American Medical Association, are “complete morons concerning their anatomy.” Keep in mind that some have argued the study was inconclusive since researchers openly admitted their interviews “were continually being interrupted by laughter and fart sounds.”

This isn’t to say getting a man to discuss the details of his vasectomy is difficult. What’s difficult is getting him to explain it in a way that doesn’t scare the pants off of you — which, of course, is his main objective. This tradition has been passed down through the years as an “unofficial” initiation rite in this “unofficial” club to which, officially speaking, no one really wants to be a member. In terms of membership enthusiasm, I’m guessing it runs neck-and-neck with The Hair Club for Men.

On the other hand, there are plenty of valid reasons to have this procedure done, each of which should be listed on a sheet of paper. Bring this list with you on the day of your surgery. That way, when you see the surgical knives and forget who you are, you’ll at least have a way of remembering why you are there.

And if you happen to forget your list, don’t worry; chances are your wife can recite it for you.

From memory.

In the form of a rap song if necessary.

The day of my vasectomy, I just kept telling myself that thousands of these procedures are performed every day. In the rare instance that something goes wrong, such as the loss of my manhood, the odds of my survival were very high. Certainly higher than if I tried escaping the doctor’s office without getting the procedure done at all.

So, to all of you men who will be visiting Dr. Snippit tomorrow, I raise my glass to you.


On the rocks, of course.

(You can write to Ned Hickson at, or at Siuslaw News at P.O. Box 10, Florence, OR. 97439)


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16 thoughts on “Need help deciding on a vasectomy? Don’t ask a man”

  1. LOL!! I was laughing the entire way through! I will agree that Men are pretty unaware of their bodies that’s for sure. I dated a guy who called me frantically at work to tell me that while he was showering one of his “balls” had ascended and was now invisble. He was so erractic while trying to explain what his nether regions looked liked and were missing that I had to put him on mute because I could not belive my ears. I then had to leave work, schedule an emergency appointment with a doctor to check his “balls”. I am sure the doctor laughed when we walked in and he informed us that it was a normal thing, and that his ball would come down from hidding soon enough.

  2. What a funny piece! I laughed until I had tears..your wife was a very wise woman. Ultimatums don’t work..I guess it must be a comprimise situation. I really can’t speak on it since I had to have a hysterectomy at the age of 26 (already had four big deal) and my SO I’ve been with for 12 years came neutered. So, I’ve never had to ask a man to get clipped..but I think you handled it perfectly.

    Since men in the club think it’s required to terrify future do you handle it when asked for advice?

    1. My first reaction is to say something like, “since they let me keep my testicles, I use them as dice when I play Yahtzee!” But, after fending off that urge, I explain that if you’ve had all the children you want/plan/are allowed to have, then getting a vasectomy is easier and healthier than requiring your wife or SO to take birth control. Condoms, to me, are for protecting against disease while you’re “running free.”

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