“If I had three wishes, none would compare to the one God already granted when he gave me you.”
I wrote those words on my wife’s Facebook today, as well as my own, inspired by no other reason than being the lucky man who can say them to her.
It’s not our anniversary;
Valentine’s Day is still more than a month away;
And no, I didn’t do something stupid.
I just love her.
It’s been that way since the moment we met. Honestly; the moment we met. And the only reason I didn’t say it right then and there was because I didn’t want to seem like a weirdo on our first date; there was plenty of time for her to figure that out later. I can’t explain how I knew so quickly and completely that I loved her. The closest I’ve come to describing it is that, even though we’d never met, somewhere in my heart I already knew her — so she was easy to recognize. I’ve been thankful for each day since and I make sure to tell her so. Today it just happened to be on Facebook.
After doing so, I was surprised at how quick people were to assume there was an alterior motive other than simply being inspired by the love I feel for my wife.
“What’s the occasion?”
“Crap! Did you forget your anniversary?”
“Whatever you did, she’ll forgive you after this.”
“If you were hoping to get lucky, that should do it buddy!”
Sometimes, not having a particular “reason” to say something heartfelt is exactly the reason to do so. Expressing your love and appreciation for someone shouldn’t require an occasion.
It simply is an occasion.
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Ahhhh, how sweet! Love notes for no reason 😉
And yet every reason 😉
I love everything about this, Ned. My husband brings me flowers once in a while, but not on the days when all the other husbands are toting them home. He just does it ’cause. And I think if I ever started EXPECTING flowers, they wouldn’t show up anymore. Because all the fun and joy and heart would go out of the whole thing. So happy for your happy relationship — wish everybody could get matched up like that. There’s nothing better.
It sounds like he keeps you guessing on everything except how much he loves you.
And you’re right, there’s nothing better than knowing you are loved and appreciated. Clothes optional… 😉
Absolutely.
I am super impressed, Ned. Very sweet 🙂
Thanks, Ann… It happens 😉
I’m applauding you!!! You and your wife have a special relationship. I rarely hear of you your type of love. Congratulations to both of you for loving one another… you truly are special!
Thanks, Gwynn. She truly is my soulmate, as corny as it may sound. All I can say is that I used to roll my eyes until it happened to me 😉
This is what keeps couples together. The mysterious, unexpected reminders that we are cherished. Very well done! (keep it up)
Don’t worry, Mary Michelle, I have no plans of stopping.
Aww! So sweet!
I got all sappy about my husband earlier today as well. Like you, no occasion. I just heard a song that makes me think of him and how blessed I am to have such an awesome husband.
I know that feeling all to well.
Not about your husband…
Awwwwww! Danny us still laughing about how I couldn’t stop saying, “I love you,” in recovery Monday. I tell him that every day, but I guess I was pretty emphatic. And I told a nurse all my funny stories. I only have a vague recollection of both!
Haha! It’s probably best that you don’t remember. Although I’d watch out to make sure the nurse doesn’t publish a book.
So glad to hear “I Love You” is a part of your every day vocabulary, Susie 😉
Good man, and a good woman too by the looks of it. Appreciation is the key to happiness *smiles*.
– sonmi upon the Cloud
I couldn’t have asked for anyone more perfect for me, or more wonderful. I wouldn’t know how to.
awww… it’s always nice to hear about people really being in love… and so sad how cynical people can be… I on occasion like to post about how awesome my husband is… cause it’s seriously a miracle I found someone that can put up with my craziness…and like the first time I did a so called friend immediately commented that people who post such things really have shitty marriages and are just putting up a front… well needless to say we’re not friends anymore… but it also made me sad that someone would say that because often how people react to such things tend to say a lot about their own relationships…
All so very true, RG. Part of what makes me so appreciative of what my wife and I share is prevailing cynicism about it’s existance. People like us are proof to the contrary 😉
Awwwwwe
Thats lovely. I hope one day I will meet someone to love me that much.
Without question.
I’ve read your posts and seen your photos; whoever it is will be very lucky 😉
I’m glad I was one of the ones who knew it was just you being you. Strangely, I’m trying to write song lyrics along the same line. You are one of a kind, Ned!
Susan, I wasn’t surprised at all that you were one of thee ones who “got it.” Because you’re also one of a kind 😉
I read this last night, by Richard Ford: “Love isn’t a thing, after all, but an endless series of single acts.”
Man, that is so true, Ross.
Grand gestures on special occasions that scream “LOVE” are nice, but don’t mean as much as the small, daily gestures that whisper the same.
I agree and I’m truly happy for you both.
the ‘no reason/just because’ reason is the best of all.
Ned, I think I just turned into a puddle. You already know that your posts about your beautiful wife leave me breathless. Cheers to just because . . .
That means a lot, Anka, because I know YOU know how I feel 😉
Cheers!
How lucky both of you are to experience this kind of love. The fact that you express it for no reason other than love itself, just makes it all the more special.
That’s the best kind 😉
Your such a weenie. A lucky weenie. A weenie that gets lucky. Now go shout it from the mountain top. I, NED HICKSON, AM A WEENIE IN LOVE AND I GET LUCKY!!!!!
After all that yelling I’m a hoarse weenie.
Wow, I’m glad I didn’t yell that…
UH UH UH UH UH UH
Oh, and dang, she’s cute.
Yeah, and there’s that 😉
Just like an aging athlete might need the occasional cortisone shot to stay in the game, a well-timed infusion of optimism does wonders for the middle-aged daters among us. Thank you for giving us a lovely post and being a lovely person.
My privilege and my pleasure, Karen 😉
Good for you, Ned. I call my wife “my dear wife Karen” every time I use her name in my blog because she is every day. Sort of the same thing.
Amen, brother 😉
Awwwww… here you go – another thing we have in common! The gooey, sentimental, for-no-reason kinda love!
❤
It is a sad day when you can say you love your partner without having an alterior motive. Wishing you many more happy days ahead.
Ned, I’m so impressed! You’re a very nice guy when there is coffee in your system!
Hahaha! My wife is the sweetener to my coffee. Having both makes me a very happy man.
You’re such a softie, Ned…
Happy Anniversary to you and your ridiculously beautiful wife.
BTW… “And no, I didn’t do something stupid.” How often can you say that?
Thanks, Robert 😉
It’s not our anniversary though — it was just because, which is the best reason.
And yeah, I should probably circle this date on the calendar.
Further proof I’m a dumbass.
I meant to type “Happy Non-Anniversary”.
Haha! We’ve had so many people wish us Happy anniversary (it’s actually in August) that we’re thinking about having two 😉
SEE? I knew there were more of ya out there!! I am lucky enough to have one of those awesome hubbies too! You are so sweet to mush all over her “For no good reason!” That is when it means the most. And… Tell us we are beautiful when we are in sweats, no makeup and need to take a shower. We may say “You’re crazy!” But we love it! If you can love me looking like this…. you really do love me! 😀
Hi Ned 🙂
I’ve been trying to get back over here to read this all day. I saw your wife’s pretty face on FB last and I just melted at the sentiment. She is one lucky/blessed lady.
My husband does the non-occasions better than the occasions. Turns out I’m a lucky lady, too. And if your wifey rewards gestures like this the way that I do…well, you’re gonna need a lot more coffee this weekend 😉
Oh yeah…. ! Good luck Ned! 😉
I’m a very lucky guy, and it sounds like your husband is, too.
And I’m way ahead of you 🙂
*Sucks down second Venti Mocha and orders another*
Good job… you renewed your two week contract.
(my dad used to tell my mom after a great meal that she could stay another 2 weeks)
Lol! Sounds like something my Dad would’ve said, followed by “if that’s ok, dear…”
From one devoted husband to another…Awesome Ned!!!!
Let’s love them to bits for we are so damn fortunate.
PS – Do you mind if I borrow that line…
Thanks, Pieter! I couldn’t agree more with you about our good fortune. It always makes me smile to talk with another husband who loves his wife like crazy.
Wwe should get matching jackets or something.
Yes, I like the jacket idea. It should have a slogan as well, something like:
I’m happily married. Leave me alone.
Haha! I think our wives would even buy them for us.
And you’ll be married a long, long time as long as you keep doing that. Cheers, Ned!
That is definitely what I’m striving for 😉
I find I appreciate a thank you or a kind word so much more when it’s not expected. Sometimes, for no reason, I’ll say thank you to my hubby or take his hand while we’re watching TV & watch his face light up because it was spontaneous!
Those are the moments that matter most in life 😉