A love note for no reason doesn’t mean I’m in trouble

image “If I had three wishes, none would compare to the one God already granted when he gave me you.”

I wrote those words on my wife’s Facebook today, as well as my own, inspired by no other reason than being the lucky man who can say them to her.

It’s not our anniversary;
Valentine’s Day is still more than a month away;
And no, I didn’t do something stupid.

I just love her.

It’s been that way since the moment we met. Honestly; the moment we met. And the only reason I didn’t say it right then and there was because I didn’t want to seem like a weirdo on our first date; there was plenty of time for her to figure that out later. I can’t explain how I knew so quickly and completely that I loved her. The closest I’ve come to describing it is that, even though we’d never met, somewhere in my heart I already knew her β€” so she was easy to recognize. I’ve been thankful for each day since and I make sure to tell her so. Today it just happened to be on Facebook.

After doing so, I was surprised at how quick people were to assume there was an alterior motive other than simply being inspired by the love I feel for my wife.

“What’s the occasion?”
“Crap! Did you forget your anniversary?”
“Whatever you did, she’ll forgive you after this.”
“If you were hoping to get lucky, that should do it buddy!”

Sometimes, not having a particular “reason” to say something heartfelt is exactly the reason to do so. Expressing your love and appreciation for someone shouldn’t require an occasion.

It simply is an occasion.


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I was a journalist, humor columnist, writer and editor at Siuslaw News for 23 years. The next chapter in my own writer’s journey is helping other writers prepare their manuscript for the road ahead. I'm married to the perfect woman, have four great kids, and a tenuous grip on my sanity...

63 thoughts on “A love note for no reason doesn’t mean I’m in trouble”

  1. I love everything about this, Ned. My husband brings me flowers once in a while, but not on the days when all the other husbands are toting them home. He just does it ’cause. And I think if I ever started EXPECTING flowers, they wouldn’t show up anymore. Because all the fun and joy and heart would go out of the whole thing. So happy for your happy relationship — wish everybody could get matched up like that. There’s nothing better.

    1. It sounds like he keeps you guessing on everything except how much he loves you.

      And you’re right, there’s nothing better than knowing you are loved and appreciated. Clothes optional… πŸ˜‰

  2. I’m applauding you!!! You and your wife have a special relationship. I rarely hear of you your type of love. Congratulations to both of you for loving one another… you truly are special!

  3. This is what keeps couples together. The mysterious, unexpected reminders that we are cherished. Very well done! (keep it up)

  4. Aww! So sweet!

    I got all sappy about my husband earlier today as well. Like you, no occasion. I just heard a song that makes me think of him and how blessed I am to have such an awesome husband.

  5. Awwwwww! Danny us still laughing about how I couldn’t stop saying, “I love you,” in recovery Monday. I tell him that every day, but I guess I was pretty emphatic. And I told a nurse all my funny stories. I only have a vague recollection of both!

    1. Haha! It’s probably best that you don’t remember. Although I’d watch out to make sure the nurse doesn’t publish a book.

      So glad to hear “I Love You” is a part of your every day vocabulary, Susie πŸ˜‰

  6. awww… it’s always nice to hear about people really being in love… and so sad how cynical people can be… I on occasion like to post about how awesome my husband is… cause it’s seriously a miracle I found someone that can put up with my craziness…and like the first time I did a so called friend immediately commented that people who post such things really have shitty marriages and are just putting up a front… well needless to say we’re not friends anymore… but it also made me sad that someone would say that because often how people react to such things tend to say a lot about their own relationships…

    1. All so very true, RG. Part of what makes me so appreciative of what my wife and I share is prevailing cynicism about it’s existance. People like us are proof to the contrary πŸ˜‰

    1. Man, that is so true, Ross.
      Grand gestures on special occasions that scream “LOVE” are nice, but don’t mean as much as the small, daily gestures that whisper the same.

  7. Ned, I think I just turned into a puddle. You already know that your posts about your beautiful wife leave me breathless. Cheers to just because . . .

  8. How lucky both of you are to experience this kind of love. The fact that you express it for no reason other than love itself, just makes it all the more special.

  9. Just like an aging athlete might need the occasional cortisone shot to stay in the game, a well-timed infusion of optimism does wonders for the middle-aged daters among us. Thank you for giving us a lovely post and being a lovely person.

  10. You’re such a softie, Ned…
    Happy Anniversary to you and your ridiculously beautiful wife.
    BTW… “And no, I didn’t do something stupid.” How often can you say that?

    1. Thanks, Robert πŸ˜‰
      It’s not our anniversary though β€” it was just because, which is the best reason.

      And yeah, I should probably circle this date on the calendar.

  11. SEE? I knew there were more of ya out there!! I am lucky enough to have one of those awesome hubbies too! You are so sweet to mush all over her “For no good reason!” That is when it means the most. And… Tell us we are beautiful when we are in sweats, no makeup and need to take a shower. We may say “You’re crazy!” But we love it! If you can love me looking like this…. you really do love me! πŸ˜€

  12. Hi Ned πŸ™‚
    I’ve been trying to get back over here to read this all day. I saw your wife’s pretty face on FB last and I just melted at the sentiment. She is one lucky/blessed lady.

    My husband does the non-occasions better than the occasions. Turns out I’m a lucky lady, too. And if your wifey rewards gestures like this the way that I do…well, you’re gonna need a lot more coffee this weekend πŸ˜‰

    1. Thanks, Pieter! I couldn’t agree more with you about our good fortune. It always makes me smile to talk with another husband who loves his wife like crazy.

      Wwe should get matching jackets or something.

  13. I find I appreciate a thank you or a kind word so much more when it’s not expected. Sometimes, for no reason, I’ll say thank you to my hubby or take his hand while we’re watching TV & watch his face light up because it was spontaneous!

No one is watching, I swear...

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